This week was a crazy one for me. After 2 incredible weekends that were incredibly productive, yet restful, the stress of this week has me completely lacking in motivation. 

It's not even that anything incredibly stressful happened at work this week, though it was incredibly stressful. It has more to do with relationships. They are so complex. I have one coworker in particular that is a struggle to work with. And what makes it even more complicated is I do genuinely like this person. 

Yet I find myself struggling to speak up around them, belittled by them, they complain about me to our boss... and now is going to become my boss. 

I'm happy for them. They absolutely have the know-how to do this job, it's the people skills I wonder about. 

Again, relationships are complex. 

Especially considering most of it is my own shortcomings. I have worked incredibly hard the past few months to become a better employee and to make sure I'm doing my job the best I can. I feel like I have made huge improvements. 

So the job is not the issue. 

The issue is my inability to stand up for myself. 

It has been a long standing issue of mine. I've actually come a long way there, too. 

However, life tends to work in cycles that always take us to a new level and can raise us to new heights if we are willing to put in the incredibly hard work. It would be so much easier if I were to just walk away.

I know I have that privilege and that capability. I've at least come that far in my life lessons. I have options. it took me a long time to stop feeling trapped and knowing that I am capable of finding another job and finding other ways to earn income. 

However, I also do legitimately enjoy the job I do and it has amazing perks and benefits. I want to stay. Which means I have to do the hard thing. I have to learn to speak up for myself. 

But boy, has that created some incredible emotional blocks and a lot of tears. My poor, supportive husband has been wonderful in all of this. 

And while I know what I need to do, actually doing the hard thing is another story. This is going to be a process. 

Because I don't have enough going on OUTSIDE of the job that is pushing me.

So we will see what happens.

The Thing About Momentum

I've noticed something this week about momentum. It's like a big rock rolling down a hill and it builds and picks up speed as you go when you are consistent.

I've made so much progress this week and I'm thrilled about how well things are moving. Not only did I get a bunch of writing/editing in this week, but I've been on a roll designing graphics to promote things, I've gotten some great feedback on my Kickstarter project, and most exciting of all, I've finally started working with the artist to create some character art!

There will also be about 7 illustrations that go into the novel itself. 

And in the deluxe edition, they will even be colored instead of in black and white. Things are starting to move along quite quickly and it's fascinating to watch. 

Since I've got all of this momentum, I'm going to use it. Short post today so I can start working on all the things! Have a marvelous week!

Things are Getting Real

This week has been a doozy. I was dealing with a bit of burnout first of all, so that was a struggle at first, but then, I noticed something that I want to do a bit more of a deep dive into, because it's very telling about where I am and where I'm headed.

My husband and I don't fight. We are both very good about talking about things that are bothering us and we discuss them. I did almost pick a fight this week. Not intentionally, mind you. I love my husband a lot. So when there were things that were bothering me, I pointed them out.

Except, in our discussion about why these things were bothering me and how I feared it would make us grow apart, he pointed out that this is something that *both* of us do, and if I didn't allow him this, it would be the thing that actually would drive us apart. 

He was right, as hard as it was to admit, but I am headed towards some big and exciting growth. Life is about to become even more wonderful, and if anyone has ever read The Big Leap,  you know that sometimes we think we can only handle so much happiness and we wait for the other shoe to drop. 

When it doesn't, we subconsciously decide to give it a bit of help and sabotage things. We thrive in the chaos. Somehow we have reached a point where we can't sit in peace and be comfortable. Because this 100% is not just me. 

It is me, especially in this instance. But it is also society as a whole. I totally recommend The Big Leap for anyone wanting to make big steps forward without losing the good things you already have. 

I want to have a family with my husband and know how wonderful he is, he had been the biggest support, but as I get closer to the launch of my big projects, I find myself more irritable towards him rather than leaning into his support. 

Not due to anything he has done, but my own fears that success with change things. But the truth is, it will only change what I let change. I can have my cake and eat it, too.

While we don't hear of them often, there are plenty of successful, even famous, couples who are happy together and stay together. I aspire to be one of them.

I've waited a long time for a relationship as wonderful as the one I have with my husband. I've put in a lot of work and waited a long time for all of my work to come to fruition. 

I'm ready for the next level. With my husband at my side.

The Castle!

What a week! After two weeks with holidays in the middle of them, to have a full work week was simply exhausting! But we made it and here we are! I have absolutely needed this break and am so excited to see what comes of today. It's early yet and I've already had a productive morning.

Highlight of the week, I got to take a virtual tour of the Chateau de Guermantes, which is absolutely stunning. I was given permission to use their photos on my website and socials, but I'm not sure if that includes the blog or not. However, you can see them all on their website as well.

Look at how stunning this place is! 

I can't wait to incorporate all of the details into my novel, but even more importantly, I'm thrilled beyond measure to be going there in August!

If you want to join me, I also finally managed to get the website finalized and you can check out the details here.

I fell a bit behind in a few other things due to some technical difficulties, but those are just about fixed as well. 

Hopefully this week will go by a bit more smoothly, and then I get an extra day off for Martin Luther King, Jr. Day on the 20th, so there will be lots of progress happening soon!

Be sure to follow along and keep an eye out for the details!

Welcome to 2025!

Whoo hoo, we are finally here! We are in 2025, where a lot of BIG dreams and plans are coming to fruition. I'm so excited for this year and have finally allowed myself to start working on something besides my novel.

Which, yes, Madamn still needs work. But I've started having so much fun building my Kickstarter campaign and planning and promoting my book launch/Reader's Escape in Paris. 

You can find the Kickstarter information HERE.

Information about the Paris trip can be found HERE.

I'm so freaking excited that things are finally happening! I'm feeling the pull of the momentum that has been building for years. It's beautiful to feel how excited Em is for her story to be told and finally shared. She is absolutely behind the momentum and it's a beautiful thing to watch.

So be sure to follow along, there will be big things happening during 2025 with no chance of slowing down. 

Also, my husband and I were finally able to celebrate Christmas this week. We had been sick, so the family time got delayed, but I have to share just how lucky I am to have such wonderful family that spoil me so much. 

My parents sent me a neck massager, which I have used pretty much every day since getting it. 

I received a yarn bowl and crochet hooks and blocking mats from my brother in law, his wife gave me looseleaf tea packets, a metal bookmark and page holder.  

My father in law got me a book and wool slippers, while my mother in law gave me socks and a lap desk with a pillow on the bottom. 

My husband gave me a LOT of chocolate and a collector's edition of Madame Bovary. It's SO beautiful and I'm excited to read it. 

The gift that shocked me the most was from my other brother in law who gave me a thermal printer, paper and a cover/carrying case. This thing is so space efficient, which is awesome for my tiny apartment and doesn't require ink cartridges. It works so well, too! 

Anyways, I hope you were as spoiled as I was during the holidays and wishing you a very Happy New Year!